You’ve been dating someone for a while, and you both really like each other. You talk almost every single day, you go on (virtual!) dates together every week, and you feel like the relationship is getting fairly serious. The only problem? Your date hasn’t told you that they love you.
This issue is very common in new relationships, and there can be a lot of reasons why. Here four common reasons why someone won’t say they love you.
1. It Is Too Soon
If you have only been seeing each other for a few weeks or months, it might be too soon. Research has found that most people take a few months to say “I love you” (although some people do say it within a month!), while others take even longer. If this is the case, don’t put pressure on them to say something they might not mean; instead give them time to develop stronger feelings.
2. They Are Shy
If you are dating a shy, introverted person, they may struggle to express their love verbally. If this is the case, consider saying it yourself first – and if they still don’t say it back for a few months, don’t worry too much.
3. The Words Carry A Lot Of Weight
“Love” is one of the most powerful words in the English language, so your partner may want to wait before they say it. This doesn’t mean that they don’t want to be with you, or that they won’t ever say it; it just means they want to be 100% sure before they say anything.
4. They Don’t Love You
There is also a chance that the other person doesn’t think you are right for them. This can be painful to learn, but if it is the case it is better to find out sooner, rather than later. Once you know you can start to move on, and eventually you will meet someone who loves you exactly as you are.