Sometimes it can feel like we spend half of our lives waiting for the perfect partner. Someone who is your soulmate; the other half of you. Deep down inside you envision your life with them, and in your mind it is the happiest you’ve ever been. You can’t wait to meet them… but what happens if you never do?
After all, if you want to be in a relationship so badly that it is one of your main goals, it sort of makes sense that you should be able to find love easily – but for some reason this isn’t the case at all.
Why It Can Be Hard To Find Love
It turns out that your desire to find a perfect person may actually be the thing that is keeping you single. Many relationship experts agree that “wishful hoping” can be the exact reason why it can take so many people to find love.
But why is this?
Apparently it is because many people long for something that is unattainable. This could be because they have watched one too many romantic comedies, or it could be a simple belief that love is easy when you find the perfect person.
Sadly this isn’t the case; all relationships go through ups and downs, and at points your partner will frustrate you and struggle to understand you. This isn’t because they are flawed – it is just because they are a normal person.
What You Can Do To Make Finding The Right Person Easier
Stop looking for the perfect person, and start to look for the right person. It is likely that you don’t know what the right person is like right now, but if you sit down and take some time to think about what you really want from a relationship, it will be easier for you to work out what you are looking for.
And while you think, remember that everyone has different partner requirements and attractions! Our tastes also change as we grow, so it is very likely that your desires and needs have changed over the last few months (or even weeks!).
Maybe you want someone who is career orientated, or maybe you are looking for someone who puts their children first. Maybe you just want to meet someone who will make you laugh, but you have spent the last few years dating people based on their appearance.
Either way it is important to be very clear about what you want. This will make it easier for you to find your perfect person, but remember – humans are perfect in their imperfections.