Men can be a tricky species to figure out; you may think that after dating one, you’ve dated them all! Unfortunately that is never the case. Men vary and it’s up to us to get to know them, figure out what they want, and what they don’t want in a relationship. Of course, there are a few things that we can generally infer about all men when it comes to settling down in a relationship. There are six things that every man over 40 secretly wants in a relationship.
First, men want commitment. After reaching 40 and not having settled down, they can start to feel insecure. They see all of their friends and family, settled down with wives and children. It can really take a toll on their self-esteem, although they’ll probably never admit this. They can start to feel like something is wrong with them because they’re the last man standing. Although many will put on a hard front and brag that they love the bachelor life, it’s not always true. Sometimes it’s hiding the side of them that’s hurt. They’re done living the single life with men in their early 20’s. They want commitment!
2. Genuine Feelings
Secondly, men over the age of 40 want true and genuine love. Chances are that at the age of 40, they’ve been in their fair share of relationships. Chances are that those relationships didn’t work out for whatever reason. A lot of men’s relationships fail because the love wasn’t there. Perhaps they never felt that strong deep connection that makes them want to spend the rest of their life with someone or perhaps the love faded. Whatever the reason, men over the age of 40 crave finding that feeling.
Men crave honesty. After a certain age, they just don’t want to play any more games. They want a woman who is going to be open and honest about her feelings. Men secretly want someone who isn’t going to shy away from all aspects of life, the good, the bad, and the ugly. They want a woman who will be straightforward about her feelings, her wants, her needs, and her desires. He doesn’t want to be in a position to be a mind-reader or play guessing games. An almost middle-aged man has been in his fair share of relationships and has most likely dealt with some dishonest ones.
A man wants a woman who is faithful and loyal. They don’t want to have to worry about a woman cheating or being unfaithful with another man. When they reach a certain point in their life, they don’t want to play those games. They want to be secure in their relationship and know that each and every night, they will be coming home to a loyal woman. They don’t want to have to constantly be checking their phone and wondering where their spouse is. They want to have that peace of mind that comes with knowing that their spouse is where they say they are. As a man in his 40’s, he’ll be able to pretty quickly pick up on signs.
5. Financial Stability
Not a lot of these men will admit this, but they want someone who is financially stable on her own. They’re not looking to sugar-daddy or pay all the bills. Rather, they want someone who can keep up with them financially. They want to see that a woman has been strong and independent on their own. It’s not to say that a man won’t spoil his girl, but he still wants her to be able to afford things on her own. This shows that she’s not just looking for his money or someone to support her.
Men in their 40’s are not shallow creatures but that doesn’t mean they don’t appreciate a good-looking woman. Therefore, the final secret thing that they want in a relationship is a good looking partner. A man in his 40’s has been in his fair share of relationships. At 40, he’s most likely ready to settle down and be with one woman for the rest of his life. Therefore, he wants to make sure she’s pretty. A beautiful girl will be able to keep a man’s attention and therefore a long relationship can flow from that. A man in his 40’s wants someone that he can be proud to show off. He wants to show the world that he didn’t settle and that he was waiting for his dream girl. A man in his 40’s who is stable in his career will want some arm candy that he can bring to corporate events, outings, and galas. He wants to show his family who pestered him for not settling down that he was waiting for a beautiful gal to sweep him off his feet.
Overall, men in their 40’s aren’t complicated. They are very set in what they want because they’ve had lots of experiences before. They’re picky but they deserve to be. They know exactly what traits and attributes they want in a woman. This is a good thing for ladies.
By Sonya Schwartz