While most single people are happy with their single status, lots of other singles desperately want to settle down. They actively use online dating to connect with new people, and they frequently arrange dates that seem promising… but they never actually end up in an official relationship.
If you can relate to this, you’re not alone – but you could be accidentally sabotaging your potential relationships. This can be very stressful and upsetting, but if you alter your behaviour slightly it will be much easier for you to find the right person.
Here are some of the main mistakes that single people make.
1. They Feel Overly Entitled
Lots of singles have friends who say “you deserve the best. You’re such a great catch! Anyone would be lucky to have you!” While this is very nice to hear, it is important to be aware that you are a normal human who is imperfect. You have flaws, just like everyone else, so try not to feel overly entitled when you start dating someone new. Of course you deserve someone who makes you happy, but remember that you will probably have to compromise on a few things – and so will your partner.
2. They Are Judgemental
If you frequently go on first dates but not second dates, it could be because you are too judgemental. Everyone should have standards, but try not to be too critical to begin with, especially if you barely know the person. Instead be open-minded and friendly, and it is likely that it will be much easier for you to make a connection with someone.
3. They Are Too Picky
Online dating makes it very easy for people to be picky about very specific things, such as height, hair colour and career. However this can seriously limit your dating options! Remember that you can’t feel attraction through a computer, so if someone is interested in you and there is only one small thing stopping you (such as a cheesy bio), consider giving them a chance. You never know – the chemistry could be amazing!
4. They Expect Too Much
Lots of people have an unrealistic idea of love, and this makes it hard for them to meet the right person. For instance you may say after a date “I had a good time, but I love reading and he hates books!” And yes, maybe they don’t like reading – but it’s very possible that they have lots of other things in common with you.