Your last relationship ended months ago, but you can’t stop thinking about your ex. You’ve downloaded online dating apps and tried to move on, but you just can’t get them out of your head – and you’re starting to think that maybe you should give the relationship another go.
If you can relate to this, you’re not alone. Lots of people struggle to move past previous romantic relationships, especially if they were together for a long time. This is very normal – but it doesn’t necessarily mean that you and your ex should get back together.
Should You Get Back Together?
So is your ex the right person for you, or are you better off alone? One important thing to consider is if they are in the same headspace as you. They may already have moved on; in fact, they could even be dating someone new. While this can be painful for you, if they are clearly moving on you should give them the space to do so.
However there is also a chance that your ex is still thinking about you too. If this is the case, they will probably find reasons to get in contact with you; for example, they may text you photos or memories from the relationship, or they might ask to meet up. If this is the case, you may want to meet up with them – but be aware the meeting might not be smooth sailing.
Don’t Forget The Problems
Break-ups are often emotional and difficult; maybe your ex blames you for certain things that happened, or maybe you still feel anger and resentment. If this is the case, it is very likely that getting back together will mean more arguments and tension. Sure, you could try to resolve the root of the problem, but this will require effort and empathy from both people.
When Getting Back Together With an Ex Might Work
Sometimes getting back together can be a good idea. Normally this is only the case if both people are willing to accept blame and compromise going forward, as each person is able to accept their flaws and change for the better.
So ask yourself; do you really want to get back with your ex, or do you just feel lonely? Are you willing to fully forgive your ex for their past mistakes? Do you think they would be willing to forgive you? The answers to these questions will make it easier for you to work out if getting back together is the best choice.