Being friends with benefits can be a lot of fun, especially if you’re not looking for a serious relationship. This type of relationship is also more common than you might expect; around 57% of adults report having a friend with benefits at some point in their lives.
However it can get complicated, especially if one person starts to develop feelings. Here are six rules for friends with benefits.
1. Rules For Friends With Benefits: Don’t Assume It Will Become A Relationship
Make sure you are okay with being friends with benefits and nothing more. If you are a hopeless romantic you may hope that things develop and grow, but there is no guarantee this will happen – in fact, it is possible that the other person is looking for a FWB because they DON’T want a serious relationship.
2. Set Simple Ground Rules
Will you sleep at each other’s house? Will you eat breakfast together, or will that feel weird? Everyone has different boundaries, so set some clear ground rules (and be willing to end the relationship if the ground rules are not being met).
3. Check In With Your Feelings
Feelings can grow and develop very quickly, so check in with your feelings every few weeks. You may notice that you are developing romantic feelings for your partner; if so, you may want to tell them this, and then you can decide how to proceed together.
4. Discuss How Things Will End
When it comes to friends with benefits, it is often best to talk about how things will end before they do. Will it end if you start sleeping with other people? Will it end if one of you develops romantic feelings for someone else? Will it end if the friendship starts to change? This can be a difficult conversation to have, but it can save a lot of heartache later down the line.
5. Use Protection
Safe sex is always important, especially if you are not in an exclusive relationship. So make sure to use some form of birth control (and also condoms to prevent STIs if either of you are sleeping with other people).
6. Have Fun
Finally have fun! Having a friends with benefits relationship can be a little challenging, but it can also be a lot of fun. Sex is enjoyable, it helps you to de-stress, and it even has a few health benefits – so have a great time!