It seems that most people have been through a tough breakup at some point in their lives. From losing a first love to going through a divorce, there are lots of different ways to experience a breakup, but either way it is always very hard.
But what happens if you meet someone amazing after a break up? Spending time with them may feel like a breath of fresh air, and you could feel like you are falling in love all over again – but before you say the L word, you should think about if your new date is a rebound or the real thing.
After all, rebound relationships are very common! This is because a lot of people throw caution to the wind after a break-up, and if they are trying lots of new hobbies they are more likely to meet someone new. Sadly rebound relationships normally end quickly because both people move too quickly, so they end up in a relationship with someone they don’t actually have much in common with.
If you want to make sure that you don’t end up in a rebound relationship, here are three tips to help you find a more genuine relationship.
1. Take Responsibility For Your Last Relationship
If you want to find a real relationship with someone new, the first thing that you need to do is be honest with yourself. Accept that you were not perfect in your last relationship, and address the traits that you want to work on so that you can be happier in the future. If you do this you are less likely attach to a new person just because ‘they seem different’ to your last partner. It also means you are less likely to blame your ex for all of the relationship problems without working on yourself!
2. Don’t Go Too Fast
Some people do meet the love of their live right after a break up, so if you like someone you shouldn’t just end it with them because you’re worried that they are a rebound. Instead you should take the relationship slowly to work out if there is a spark there, as this means that you can get to know each other before committing to anything serious.
3. Don’t Put Expectations On Other People
After a difficult break up some people blame their ex for everything, and they expect the next person to fix their broken heart and make them whole again. Sadly this is an overly dependent, damaging attitude that means you are likely to end up with someone just for the sake of being in a relationship, rather than being with someone because they are perfect for you.
For this reason you shouldn’t put expectations on other people; instead you should only have expectations for yourself. Invest time and effort in working on yourself, and make sure you are truly over your last relationship before looking for a new relationship. This way you are much more likely to find a genuine, loving relationship with someone else!