One of the hardest things about modern dating is ghosting. The term only appeared in the last few years, and it describes when someone you match with suddenly disappearing. No break up, no excuses – just complete silence.
This can be very upsetting and frustrating, especially if you really like the other person. You might find yourself wondering if you were the problem; what you did wrong, or if they even cared about you at all.
Thankfully it is possible to move past being ghosted; you just need to know what to do. Here are a few tips to help you deal with being ghosted.
1. Establish How You Feel About Being Ghosted
Sit down and take some time to think about how you feel. It is totally normal to feel upset, confused or angry; these feelings are all a natural response to being inexplicably ignored by someone you care about. Understand that these feelings are healthy and normal, and that it shows that you are emotionally healthy and mature (unlike the person who ghosted you).
2. Understand Why You Were Ghosted
It can be tempting to blame yourself after being ghosted. You might wonder if you were too clingy, or if you didn’t message them enough, but in reality it is very likely that the problem lies with the ghoster. Ghosters are often afraid of commitment, and they tend to have communication issues (which is why they disappear without saying anything). So don’t take their selfish behaviour as a sign that there is something wrong with you!
3. Take It As A Lesson
Ghosting really sucks, but every hardship comes with a lesson – so try to turn being ghosting into a valuable life lesson. You might not know exactly why they disappeared, but you do know that they disappeared without considering your feelings… and you deserve better than that.
Remind yourself that even if you liked them, you shouldn’t want to be in a relationship with a selfish person. You don’t deserve to be treated poorly, and the right person will never leave without an explanation. Remember that their behaviour says more about them than it does about you. People show who they really are through their actions!