You’ve been talking to each other for a while now. You’ve been on a few dates, you have a few in-jokes and you have told your friends all about them – but you have no idea how to bring up being in an official relationship.
Dating limbo can be a difficult place to be, especially if you are long-distance dating, but if you want to be exclusive it is important to be honest about your feelings.
If you are ready to take the next step, here are a few tips to help you be honest about wanting an exclusive relationship.
1. Prepare for the conversation before you have it
The relationship chat can be a difficult one, so it is important to prepare for the conversation before you have it. It is possible that the other person isn’t ready for a relationship yet, so try not to have too many expectations; just be honest about how you feel and let the other person react naturally.
2. Practice what you want to say beforehand
Sometimes it can be good to improvise, but improvising when you are nervous can be a bad idea as you may struggle to get everything out. For this reason it can be useful to prepare what you want to say in advance, so that you don’t forget anything. It can also make you feel less nervous, which is definitely a bonus!
3. Think about how to frame your point
Maybe you want to be in a Facebook official exclusive relationship, or maybe you just want to find out if your date is sleeping with other people. Both of these things are very different, so it is important to frame your point well so that the other person doesn’t get confused and misunderstand you.
4. Be serious
If you feel nervous you may be tempted to fall back on humor as a coping mechanism, but there is nothing wrong with expressing your feelings. It will also be easier for the other person to be honest about their feelings if you aren’t laughing!
5. Remember that you deserve to be happy
If you want to be in an exclusive relationship with someone that is totally fine. Hook up culture is very normal today, but most people are still seeking a long-term, exclusive relationship with someone else, so you will be able to find what you want.
And if your date doesn’t want to be exclusive, don’t regret bringing the subject up. You should know where you stand, and if your date is on a different page to you you deserve to know.
What do you think about these points? Leave a comment and let us know!
