Do you want to find love in the near future? If so, it is time to become a proactive dater. You may think you are already a proactive dater if you use online dating, but in reality this isn’t always the case. Lots of people are passive daters who rarely make an effort to find love; instead they go weeks without checking their dating profile, and they tend to only log on if someone else matches with them.
This can really slow down your dating life, but thankfully it is very easy to become a proactive dater – and we are here to help you.
Here are five tips to help you become a more proactive dater.
1. How To Be A Proactive Dater: Learn Your Patterns
Lots of people date on autopilot, falling into standard dating patterns that stop them from finding love. Become a more proactive dater by spending some time thinking about your behaviour patterns; is there anything you do repeatedly? Do your relationships normally follow a similar pattern? Do you have any fears or concerns about dating? What are your emotional weaknesses?
The answers to these questions will teach you more about your dating patterns, so it will be easier for you to identify issues that need working on.
2. Express A Clear Interest
If you match with someone you like, express a clear interest. Don’t wait for them to match you or message you; take control by letting the other person know how you feel about them. If they like you back you can suggest a date, and if they don’t feel the same way you can continue searching for your perfect person.
3. Be Clear About Your Expectations
If you want a casual relationship, tell your crush. If you want to be exclusive, let them know! Not everyone wants the same thing, so having this conversation early on can be beneficial for both parties. After all, it can be very demoralising to spend time and effort dating someone who wants something completely different to you.
4. Reduce Avoidance
Dating comes with highs and lows, and during low points it can be tempting to feel discouraged. If this happens to you, remember that the lows are temporary. You may want to take a few weeks away from dating to boost your mood, but don’t give up on dating all together; you never know when you will meet the love of your life.
5. Drop The Rigid Rules
Finally we suggest dropping any rigid dating rules you follow. Forget the waiting three days to text rule, and forget about waiting until the fourth date to sleep together; just do whatever feels right to you. Remember everyone