Were you born between 1982 and 2000? If so, you’re a millennial – and it is very likely your experience of dating is different to your parent’s experience. New technology, social politics and more sexual freedom has changed the world of online dating… but that doesn’t mean you can’t find love. Here is some dating advice for millennials.
1. Dating Advice For Millennials: Don’t Put Pressure On Nights Out
If you go for a night out with your friends, try not to put too much pressure on yourself. Nights out can be pretty intense; getting all dressed up, spending time in loud places and hoping you’ll meet someone nice. But it is important to remember that the point of a night out isn’t to meet someone; it is to have fun! So focus on having a good time with your friends, rather than constantly scanning the bar for other singles.
2. Don’t Be Afraid Of The Block Button
If you are using a dating website (such as ours!) and you match with someone who is rude, overly persistent or argumentative, don’t be afraid to block them. You don’t have to waste your time or energy on a stranger who is bothering you, especially if they upset you or make you feel angry. Remind yourself that it is better to focus on the positive, rather than the negative – and then block away!
3. Don’t Follow Outdated Sex ‘Rules’
Don’t listen to any outdated sex rules such as waiting until the third date; just listen to yourself. If you want to have sex on the first date, go ahead – and if you want to wait, that is totally fine too! People tend to have a much more open-minded attitude to sex nowadays; most people believe that it is perfectly acceptable to sleep with multiple partners (if the partners know), and it is also perfectly okay to identify as asexual (which means you are not interested in ever having sex).
So don’t let anyone try to guilt you or shame you into doing something you don’t want to do. The right person won’t judge you for your sexuality or your sex drive.
4. Remember It Isn’t Always About You
If someone doesn’t match you or ignores your message, try not to take it too personally. Everyone has different tastes and interests, and that doesn’t mean that you are less attractive or interesting – it just means that you’re not their type! So don’t overthink it; just focus on the people who do want to match with you.
5. If You’re Not Having Fun, Stop
Sometimes the dating process is fun… but sometimes it can become a little tiresome, especially if your crushes keep fizzling out. If you ever find that you are getting bored of the dating process, consider taking a break. Delete the apps from your phone and take some time to focus on yourself, and once you feel better you can rejoin and start matching again.
