Lots of people identify as introverted or socially awkward, but they still have happy, loving relationships. While dating may initially seem daunting, introverts often thrive on the dating scene.
Every personality type has pros and cons – it is what you do with the traits that really matters. If you are an introvert who is currently dating, check out our advice below.
- Visit places that make you feel good
Introverts often dislike large groups, overcrowded venues and too much noise, which can make them feel nervous and uneasy. Make sure that you actually enjoy your evening out by going somewhere that you know you like. The familiar venue will help you to relax and enjoy yourself.
- Start a social hobby
If you are struggling to find a date in a nightclub or a bar, change your angle. Consider joining a club like yoga or cooking where you can meet other people with similar interests. As you are not actively looking for love, it takes the pressure off and makes it easier for introverted people to thrive.
- Talk to strangers when you can
Small talk can be a real problem for introverts – especially with a stranger. Become a more confident communicator by making the effort to talk to strangers when you are out and about. You could try starting a conversation at the bus stop with someone else who is waiting, or you could talk to the barista while he makes your coffee. There are plenty of people who are willing to chat!
- Don’t assume that dating is easier for other people
You may see a beautiful person and think that dating is easy and fun for them. The truth is, you never know what someone else is going through – they may be going through a tough breakup, or they may have body confidence problems. When you realize that everyone is on the same page, dating becomes less scary and more fun.
- Keep the conversation going
If you know how to, it is easy to keep a conversation going once it has started. Speak loudly and clearly so that the other person can hear you well, and make regular eye-contact and smile. This shows the other person that you are interested and focused, so they will continue to talk and ask you questions.
You can also ask open-ended questions, to keep the conversation flowing naturally without getting stuck on a “yes” or a “no.”
- Don’t let extroverts overwhelm you
Introverted people are often happy to be quiet when they are spending time with loud people – they can be pretty intense! However, keeping quiet often means you will go unnoticed. Try to say something whenever you think of something relevant or interesting – don’t keep it inside your head, let your personality show!