After weeks of crushing on the person of your dreams, you’ve finally scored a first date. You can’t wait to spend some more time with them, and you’re excited to see where this could go.
But before you get too emotionally invested, you need to master the first date – after all, you don’t want the relationship to end before it even starts.
Here are 7 things you should never do on the first date.
1. Don’t Be Late
One of the worst things you can do on a first date is show up late. Most people care about punctuality, and if you turn up late your date might think that you are bad at managing your own time – or even worse, they might think that you are disinterested and inconsiderate.
If you are worried about being late, set off earlier than you normally would to make sure you arrive on time. If you are going to be late, send your date a text to let them know.
2. Don’t Overinvest
Lots of people financially overinvest in the first date. If you spend a lot of money on a first date, your date may think that you’re certain you’re getting a second date. It also puts your date under pressure to return your feelings. Instead of throwing money around, focus on getting to know your date for who they are.
Other people emotionally overinvest in the first date. Instead of getting to know their date, they act like they are on a third or fourth date and they act overly intimate. This can push your date away and make them feel uncomfortable. Remember that you don’t know each other well yet!
3. Don’t Talk About Your Ex
There is a time to talk about exes, but it isn’t on the first date. Unless it is relevant to the conversation, avoid talking about your ex – and even if they do come up, don’t talk about them for long. It can seem like you still have feelings towards your ex, and no-one wants to experience that on a first date.
4. Don’t Look Messy
If you show up to a first date wearing clothes that smell and have holes in them, it is likely that you will never hear from your date again. After all, it isn’t hard to put on a clean outfit – if you can’t be bothered, you probably shouldn’t be going on a first date.
You don’t have to wear expensive designer clothes – just something that is fresh out of the wash!
5. Don’t Do All Of The Talking
Lots of people nervously babble during a first date, but listening is more important. If both people on a date love the sound of their own voice and they don’t take the time to talk to their date, the date will be a disaster. If both people are making an effort to ask the other questions and are really listening to the answers, it is likely to be a great date.
6. Don’t Bombard Your Date With Questions
It is important to listen to your date, but don’t take it too far. Lots of people complain that first dates can sometimes feel like job interviews, and you don’t want your date to feel this way. Take the time to really listen to your date’s responses before you fire off another question.
7. Don’t Get Too Drunk
Lots of people enjoy a drink on the first date, as it helps to calm their nerves. A few drinks may help you to loosen up and relax, but too many and you may embarrass yourself – no-one wants to end up throwing up in a taxi in front of their crush.
What tips do you have for people who are going on a first date? Let us know with a comment!