“Dating is a waste of time.”
“I need to take a break from dating.”
“I’m starting to really hate the dating game.”
Can you relate to any of these phrases? If so, you’re not alone. Lots of people experience dating fatigue, especially if they have approached dating with the wrong mindset. This can make dating feel like a frustrating, time-consuming expense – but thankfully it possible to enjoy dating again.
Whether you’ve just started dating or you’ve been dating for years, here are six positive mindsets you can use to make dating more enjoyable.
1. 6 Positive Mindsets That Make Dating Enjoyable: “My Time Is Valuable”
When it comes to dating, your time is always valuable. Don’t say “yes” to dates with people you’re not that interested in, and stop seeing people if you feel like they are wasting your time. This means that you will spend less time with incompatible people (and you’re also more likely to meet someone you have a genuine connection with!).
2. “I Am Likeable Even If Some People Don’t Want To Date Me”
Some people take rejection very personally, but in reality someone not wanting to date you isn’t an insult. They could still be in love with their ex, or they could have fundamentally different goals (for instance, they may want children and you might not). So remember that you are still likeable and dateable, even if one specific person doesn’t want to date you.
3. “I’m Not Here To Fix Other People’s Issues”
Lots of people have issues that crop up when dating. Maybe family problems have given them commitment issues, or maybe they are heartbroken. Either way, you’re not dating to fix other people’s issues; they need to work on those issues themselves. Remember that trying to be someone’s personal therapist rarely works, especially if the other person doesn’t want to work on their issues.
4. “Part Of The Goal Is To Meet New People”
Dating shouldn’t feel like endless interviews; it should simply be about getting to know someone! You may discover a connection, or you may not – so don’t put too much pressure on yourself. Just try to have fun and connect with others.
5. “Mixed Signals Turn Me Off”
Mixed signals aren’t mysterious or confusing; they make it clear that someone isn’t sure about their feelings for you. Over time this can affect your self-esteem and emotions, so try to cut someone off if they display mixed signals. Remind yourself that you deserve someone who knows what they want!
6. “Romance Isn’t Everything”
If you are a hopeless romantic you may find yourself prioritizing dating above everything else, but this can quickly lead to burnout. Remember that there are lots of great things in life; spending time with good friends, your hobbies and passions, your career and your health. Dating isn’t the be-all and end-all; it is just a small aspect of your life!