Are you dating a busy person? Sometimes it can feel like their lives are too busy for you, but this is rarely the case. Often busy people are great in relationships as they are driven and passionate – perfect traits for a partner
If you are dating a busy person (or at least thinking about it), here are our top 5 tips to make sure the relationship works for both of you.
1. Be Understanding Before Jumping To Conclusions
When you are dating a busy person, it can be tempting to jump to negative conclusions to explain their behaviour. It is annoying that your date can’t always attend the same things as you, but it is impressive that your date is so committed to their job/hobbies/family.
Learn why these things are so important to your date, and be supportive and encouraging. Maybe you can spend more time with their family, or maybe you can pick your date up after work. There is always a way around the problem – you just have to look for it.
2. Use Technology To Stay In Contact
Technology has made huge advances in recent years, and there are lots of apps that you can use to stay in contact with your partner. You can use a video chatting app like Skype to chat to each other during the day, and apps like Whatsapp and Snapchat mean you can text and send pictures to each other whenever you want.
3. Make The Most Of The Time You Two Spend Together
Scheduling is very important if you are dating a busy person. Sometimes your date may only be free for an hour or two in the morning, but you can make that work; go for a walk in the park or a coffee together!
Make sure you and your date are getting the most out of your time together. Plan in advance, but don’t feel like you have to always do extravagant things – your date may just want to put their feet up and relax during their time off!
4. Be Realistic (And Honest With Yourself)
If you are dating someone who is always busy, it is important to ask yourself what your expectations are. It is unreasonable to expect them to change for you, and it is unrealistic to think “when the relationship become more serious they will spend more time with me.”
Ask yourself these questions to see if you can be happy with a busy person; are you comfortable dating someone who is often busy? Are you willing to make expectations for them? Are you proud of their drive and motivation, or do you wish they focused more on you?
5. Talk To Your Date About How Their Busy Schedule Makes You Feel
Calmly and openly discuss your feelings with your partner. Your partner may have been unaware that you are bothered by their schedule, and they may be willing to make a compromise that works for both of you. Alternatively, they may tell you in no uncertain terms that they are unwilling to compromise. This may be hard to hear, but you deserve to know so you don’t feel like you’ve wasted your time. Good luck!