2017 has ended, and if you are reading this article it is likely that you are starting the new year as a singleton. Maybe you are very happy about this, or maybe you wish you could find someone to share your life with – either way, there are a few things you can do this year to improve your single experience. From being happier about your single status to being more positive when you are dating, here are 4 tips for a positive dating experience in 2018.
1. Be Compassionate Instead Of Being A Victim
Sometimes when people go through bad dating experiences they become bitter and negative, and over time this can turn into a victim mind-set. While you may think that this helps you to cope with dating, in reality it will just make it harder for you to meet someone.
Remember that everyone has their own emotional baggage, and if someone hurts you it means that you should move on – not that you should play the victim with future potential dates. This will only make it harder for you to meet a happy, healthy, positive person, while the person who hurt you will move on with their own life.
2. Let Go Of Past Wrongs
If you want to enjoy dating in 2018 you need to live in the present. Move past old grudges and resentments, as they are no longer relevant. They may still be important to you, but what will you gain from lamenting over them?
Everyone experiences hardship, and the best thing you can do is learn from it – especially if you hope to meet someone else and have a happy relationship in the future.
3. Realise You Are In Control Of Your Happiness
If you feel unhappy about your single status take some time to reconnect with yourself. Instead of looking for someone else who can bring happiness into your life, focus on the things that make you get out of bed every morning. It is easy to become dissatisfied if you only focus on the things you are unhappy with, but this will make you less attractive to others – and it also means that you might be too clingy if you do find a relationship, as you place too much importance on being with someone. Instead try and do something you love every day, from walking in nature to watching a comedy show.
4. Ask Your Friends For Feedback
You friends know you better than anyone else, for better or worse. Some of the time friends only compliment their friends, rather than giving them feedback or constructive criticism, which is fair enough – but if you are struggling to find someone, ask your friends if they think that you could be doing anything to put potential dates off. Of course, you should only do this if you will actually take the feedback on board, rather than taking their comments as an attack!