Bad dates can really suck – but if you are single and actively dating, it is possible that you will go on a bad date. This can be awkward or upsetting, but in reality there are lots of things that you can learn from a bad date. This will make the date more bearable, and it will make future dates easier as well.
Here are four things you can learn from a bad date.
1. When You Have Nothing In Common With Each Other
This isn’t the worst thing that can happen on a date. Your date could be a nice person, but if you have nothing in common the date might be filled with awkward silences. This can be demoralising, but it doesn’t say anything bad about you; it is just something that happens to everyone.
The main thing that you can learn from this date is that you should spend a little more time getting to know someone before you meet them. This doesn’t mean that you have to talk for weeks without meeting up; a phone call or a Skype conversation is a simple way to get to know your date better.
2. When They Spend The Whole Date On Their Phone
Your date spent the vast majority of the date on their phone, and you have no idea what they are doing; are they checking social media, or are they messaging other people? You feel ignored and a little insulted, and you want to make sure that this never happens on a future date.
The lesson that you can learn here is to avoid using your phone completely on future dates (unless it is absolutely necessary). This means that your date is less likely to start using their phone – and if you do go on a date again with someone who keeps checking their phone, politely ask them what they are doing (and if it is necessary to do it right now!)
3. When They Are A Bad Person
Your date seemed kind, funny and charming when you were messaging, but now you are actually on a date together and they are completely different. They may be stuck up, rude or self-centered; either way, it sucks to spend time with them!
This kind of date can make you feel demoralised, but you can learn from this experience. In the future make sure that you are on high alert for signs of bad behaviour when you are messaging or speaking to someone. It can be tempting to overlook these things, especially if the other person is very attractive, but in reality if someone gives off a red flag you might want to think about cancelling the date.
4. When You’re Not Attracted To Each Other
You’ve met up, and you think the other person is great… the only problem is that you’re not attracted to each other. This can be frustrating, especially if the date was expensive, but the lesson here is that you shouldn’t force a romantic attraction if it isn’t there naturally. Simply agree to be friends, and focus on finding a match who you are actually attracted to.